What does love mean to you?
Seriously?
How do you know
what it is?
Love at first sight
takes us far from where we were.
Love and its might
describe who we are.
But love is not all that’s involved
not all that’s dissolved
when we fall into another
and fall out of ourselves.
Giving, holding, inquiring, guiding?
That’s how you experience it, no?
How about growing closer,
in a nuanced dance?
What happens when you know
that he doesn’t love you?
Might be the way to know what it is
by what is missing when it’s gone.
Co-operation, forgiveness, kindness and
respect.
That vital ability to look at the universe
from behind the other person’s eyes.
Pushing your mind to know and cherish
all the things
that don’t sit right
accepting him for everything
so you don’t start a fight.
Maybe you love fighting
and noting and pointing out
how I’m not doing life right
the right way
the way that you say
the right way that you want
me to say what you want me to say?
Empathy is a thing and to me is part of love.
Need to feel how you feel so I can feel connected to you.
Evidence is real and shows what has been and is and will be
connecting us together with trust and safety.
So love is safety and respect and trust.
It is empathy and forgiveness and curiosity.
Love is not some ethereal thing to ‘believe in’
but a concrete and real experience to confirm
and improve upon
with the passage of time
and closer alliance
for deeper acceptance.
Tell me the positives you see
rather than every discrepancy.
Provide evidence of your love for me
so all alone you will never be.
A D R A N 